Advice on dating a widower
Today I was told he did not know if he could love someone again -- I've read many stories about the first woman a widower dates... “secretively”, as he wasn’t comfortable being seen with me in public. I know, 'how did I get punched' I don't know either. I spent 10 months giving him companionship through the winter and being there on his down days.I have been divorced for 12 years and have become very...
We knew she was sick with cancer,and working through her "bucket list", but her death three years ago, at age 49 was still a surprise. things were complicated and messy and we had a break down Saturday. I wasn't too interested in him at first, no love at first sight for me.
I rarely let men I'm just dating on my FN page but i did him.
I had looked at his FB page and he had written a tribute to his LW, which I thought was sweet. I have been seriously dating a wonderful man who is a widower for about a year and a half.
for over three years, and the late wife has been gone for nearly seven. When we met he'd finished a 4 year relationship after his LW, as well as internet dating with quite a few women and then that's how we met. I got caught up in the midlle of something and I have no idea how to deal with it. It is so hard hearing how 'wonderful' the late wife and their life together was and I am the one who has to be sympathetic and understanding when he is sad, which he is happy to tell everyone about.
We even moved in together because he said that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. He has said variations of the fact that he doesn't love me the way he loved her... As I understand he and LW they'd had a long happy marriage and been together for over 20 years since his mid 20s'. secret to his boys, I realized that I wanted so much more in a relationship. I do not know anyone who has ever been in a similar situation, so I have been wondering in internet foruns and... It has almost been a year since his wife has died and he has not got rid of her clothes and her presence is still very much in his home. He swears he loves me but admits he is still grieving. I am made to feel so second rate and marginalised...