Carters exclusive dating advice
There is only one version of the truth and you have to be prepared for it, especially in matters of the heart when it may not be what you would like to hear: He enjoys your company, but is not interested in an exclusive relationship with you.
Since he is aware of your desire to be exclusive and has expressed to you that he does not share the same interest, and has no problem continuing to see you, it is now up to you to decide whether that arrangement is something you would like to continue participating in.
Warren, I’ve gotten to know a very nice man through e Harmony, but after a few dates he informed me that we were not exclusive to each other.
He’s not so much into e-mail or phone calls, but our dates are absolutely wonderful—four dates, in fact. Sincerely, Sarah in New York Answer: Dear Sarah, Thank you so much for your question.
During the date he is 100 percent there, but when the date is over he’s only 10 percent there. I want you to know that I can understand how frustrated you might be in your situation, but also want to shed some light on what may be going on.
If anything, when he does reply to my e-mail they seem a bit impersonal. To answer your question directly, a relationship should become exclusive when both parties are ready to make that kind of commitment to one another.
MAKING HIM THINK IT’S ALL HIS IDEA So aside from having the right “attitude”, how do you show a man that you’re selective and draw him closer to you?
With as something as serious as finding a long-term relationship, there is no rush.
I commend you for being honest enough with your own feelings and the man you’ve been dating to inquire about exclusivity, and I also commend him for his honesty in expressing to you what his true interests are.
On the other hand, when a woman is selective about how and when she moves into a more serious and committed relationship, she’s coming from a place of inviting the man to be with her, but at the same time being clear that her life is going to continue forward and be full and rich no matter what a man does.
This “attitude” is a subtle shift, but the response that a man will have to it will make all the difference.