Dating going slow
Let things evolve a bit, as you get to know someone. Avoidance of intimacy: While this one is traditionally men’s domain, women are quickly catching up in the fear of commitment zone.
Patience and restraint are required here, even though you may feel pressed for time. Modern society imposes so many requirements and expectations on what makes for a “good catch,” and that makes it hard to sort through whether someone would be a good choice for us.
Playing it cool and not getting too involved may make you feel safe, but you risk coming across as aloof or remote, and may turn the other person off.
If they don’t let you call them at home, yep, red flag. Of course, there are more subtle warnings that one may be tempted to overlook, especially if one is eager for the relationship to work out.
While one shouldn’t jump to conclusions without sufficient evidence on the first problem that arises, an emerging pattern is not something to make excuses for or brush under the rug.
Assertiveness is not to be confused with being bossy or demanding.
Being tactful and direct is the quickest path to relationship success. Sacrificing too much to get the relationship: If you find that you are doing things you would not otherwise do to get someone’s attention, like bending over backwards and injuring your spine in the process, then you are entering the land of the doormats.