Dating in the dark couple status
Years later, he's turned those thoughts and advice into a book "Women Have All the Power, Too Bad They Don't Know It." Just Because it Glitters Doesn’t Mean It’s Gold Don’t be impressed by the unimpressive.
Too many women sell themselves short by settling for a man with an attractive exterior.
You want intimacy, romance, and a relationship strong enough to last a lifetime.
To find it, you’ve ventured into the world of dating—an activity whose chief purpose is to get to know others, and to be known by them.
Your secret is important and potentially hurtful or at least cause for concern—if not, it wouldn’t be much of a secret.
So don’t expect your partner simply to take it in stride without a second thought.
I had a woman tell me how flattered she was when her boyfriend booked her a posh hotel room, filled it from corner to corner with freshly cut roses, and had an expensive dress lying across the bed just as a surprise to show her how much he cared about her.
Granted, I’d have to give the brother an “A” for style and originality, but when I said to her, “Wow, he must be paid! He’s living with his mother right now, but he just really likes me.” All I could think was, 'This fool must have fallen and bumped her head.
You’ve decided that disclosure is necessary and that the time is right.
Take it as a golden opportunity to give the very thing you hope to get—kindness, compassion, understanding, and forgiveness.
Most of the time, secrets are not nearly as scary in the light of day as they are in your mind.
On the other hand, if that phase of your life resulted in a felony conviction (or an eventual drinking problem), that fact has direct bearing on your life today and your partner is entitled to know it. Chances are, your big secret is something you are not proud to admit.
By sharing the details with your partner, you are implicitly asking the person not to hold it against you—to accept your past as past and still be willing to build a future together.