Dating when you are a single mom
Residing under the feelings of fear and grief, relief and sadness is liberation. When we feel unsatisfied emotionally or mentally, we automatically lose our desire for sex. Those who have reclaimed themselves through separation or divorce live in a sexually liberated state.This phase won't last forever, but while she's in it, enjoy it.It is important for her to feed her needs, even if they are primal.Emojis have nothing on the emotional forecast of a woman who has weathered a divorce.We have undergone massive life shifts from single-hood to married life, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding; enduring radical changes to our bodies and minds.We are connected, interwoven with the lives of our children.I still don't understand the game of love, but I do understand my needs as a woman and mother.Some of which, I believe, are universal to single mothers in my age bracket.
I've made up for all of the years of inexperience in the dating pool, earning a rap sheet full of mistakes and heartbreaks.
Taking it slow and playing a smooth game is not her M. Remember, she spent every night for years with the same person.
She is a fish out of water and she will act like it. Make light of her ineptness and remember she's on a learning curve -- it won't be like this forever.
I sit down and across from me, empty space, on either side of me, joy -- bouncing legs, crumbs and buttery hands yearning to tell me about their days and I listen, but there is something missing: a partner.
Someone who's there to listen, contribute to the conversation, and asks the questions I forget to ask, who catches the conversation like the catcher in a game, and throws the ball back to me, As mothers, we feel forgotten a lot.