Dating with marriage in mind
It is a faith-filled attempt to become like him and make him known together.
Regardless of the believer you marry, you will likely find out soon that you do not feel as “compatible” as you once did, but hopefully you will marvel more at God’s love for you in Jesus and the amazing privilege it is to live out that love together, especially in light of your differences.
Jesus may ask more of us, but he does so to secure and increase our greatest and longest-lasting (sexual) happiness.
For those whose roads are marked more by mistakes than selflessness, patience, and sound judgment, take hope in the God who truly and mysteriously blesses your broken road and redeems you from it, and who can begin in you a new, pure, wise, godly pursuit of marriage today.
It was not an oversight on the part of the God of all history, as if he couldn’t see into the 21st century.
The qualifications are wonderfully clear and simple: 1) they must believe your God (2 Corinthians ) and 2) they must be of the opposite sex (Genesis –24; Matthew 19:4–6; Ephesians –32).
From far too young, I longed for the affection, safety, and intimacy I anticipated with a wife. I experimented too much with our hearts and allowed things to go too far. And now my singleness is a regular reminder that I messed up, missed opportunities, or did it wrong. Maybe all the suggestions and advice you’ve collected has become a confusing mess of good-intentioned contradictions and ambiguity.
The happiness of marriage is not only or even mainly physical.In our worst moments, our objectives are small and misguided.We just don’t want to be alone on a Friday night anymore.But God had much more in mind with romance than orgasms or even procreation, and so should we. When people in the world are expecting less and less of each other in dating, God isn’t — so among the single we have to work harder in our not-yet married relationships to preserve what marriage ought to picture and provide.Nothing in my life and faith has been more confusing and spiritually hazardous than my pursuit of marriage. Maybe you’ve wanted the relationship or liked the guy or girl, and you’ve never had the chance.