Deadly dating patterns
By not seeing any one man too often, you ﬁnd the men who are really into you and who will stay the course.Plus, you break out of your prison of Deadly Dating Patterns and maneuver more skillfully in the dating world.I never dated more than 1 guy at a time even when I was in my 20s. and every single time it's been a great disappointment even when I went into it with a positive mindframe and the intent to succeed. I followed the directions explicitly and gathered a group of 8 women together to create Team Love where we read a chapter of the book each week and reported to the group on our personal discoveries.She also encourages people to date "against their type" - the idea being that you might find a diamond in the rough and overcome falling into your deadly patterns. but it'll be a cold day in hell when I date a man who turns me off (be it physically, mentally or emotionally). Finding a quality partner in those ads is like finding a needle in a haystack. We all were committed to learning a new way of relating and dating and encouraged one another to continue on the journey to love. Diana was our mentor and she gave us her personal time in coaching and encouragement. Now, after several months I have extracted myself from the addictive relationship I was in and am now involved with a man who is the exact opposite of what I would normally choose.This book is for the single woman at any age; and about time too.Full of insights about yourself, what you are doing wrong and how to avoid the pitfalls we all seem to get into.
But two chapters in, I was rolling my eyes a little too far back into my head and by the time I got half-way into the book, I just couldn't read any further.I'd rather stay single than go out with a man that I'm not attracted to. I respect the fact that she's a psychologist and that her method works for some people but I would strongly suggest that you follow your instincts when it comes to dating (unless your biological clock is ticking and you can't wait, you're desperate and can't stand being alone, etc..) Far too many people compromise or settle for less than they deserve because they figure it's as good as it gets and they might as well cut their losses. There IS someone out there for (almost) everyone who is absolutely perfect for you in every way and is even better than you could have imagined. I learned what to look for in a man, what is most important to me in relationship and was able to attract that man into my life. All of our Team Love members have transformed the way they date and the way they look at themselves and the men in their lives.One of the ladies from Team Love has found the love of her life (in 90 days) and I, too, have found a man with an amazing capacity to love. In this excerpt, she shares why this method works and what guidelines you should use for success. Diana Kirschner says dating multiple men is key to finding true love.