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A woman's profile would show up on my Tinder, and I'd just stare at it.
I couldn't swipe right, partly because of an information shortage, partly because of the guilt I felt misleading the woman in the picture.
So I filled out my profiles honestly, noting in each I was not looking to date, "only make friends :)." This practice got trickier on more information-intensive apps—I literally responded to Coffee Meets Bagel's "I like it when my date…" query with a "doesn't want to date me. and an online dating consultant, later told me that strategy was all wrong: Being direct was the kiss of death.
"If you're looking for friends, I would just not write anything about that until the very end if they ask you a question about it," she said. "On OKCupid, they ask you 'you should message me if…' and I would say something really casual there like, 'You think having a drink would be fun.' Use words like 'fun,' which is an indicator of more for social than anything else." She didn't have a lot of faith in my whole friend-getting scheme, really.
During the month that I used social dating apps to find new buddies, I sent countless unrequited salutations, offered up priceless New York City travel recommendations, and even gave my number to a guy who wanted to discuss first amendment rights. When I started, I believed that, with millions of people just searching for company online, I'd easily find my new bestie or at least someone down for a platonic hang.
A friend finder app, after all, didn't seem too far away with Tinder for cats and other spin-off matching services debuting. Lyke Me, an app three Michigan State University students have designed to match people based on interests, is launching this fall.) On a personal level, I wanted more friends.
So if that's an issue, we should probably just call it now."We did; he never responded.
The ample matches I'd make would either a) never talk to me or b) always and incessantly talk to me and get upset if I didn't reply as rapidly or enthusiastically.
That said, I was confident friendship was going to be different on the apps.
People would be chiller because the relationship stakes were lower. Still, I didn't want to play mind games with my future besties.
Tinder was the worst of them: All I saw were a couple of group shots (but which guy are you, Steve?
), ab selfies, and if I was really lucky, a suit shot.