My boyfriend has a profile on a dating site
this is separate, but I want to address it for your sake in general).If I were in your shoes, I would say something along the lines of: “Hey listen…At this moment, you are reading into the situation negatively, assuming that he has bad motives or could be playing you.The fact remains though that you don’t know, but hopefully having a conversation with him will bring you closer to knowing. It is true there are dishonest people in the world and it’s perfectly reasonable and healthy to be suspicious when you get the sense that you’re with someone who’s lying to you. However, there are times where we ourselves are paranoid…As such, some of the comments (which I have preserved) bring up points that I have since addressed in this revision.Right off the top, you mentioned that you and he have agreed to be exclusive.
How clear was his side of the agreement to being committed?You’re just seeing what he’s doing online and that information is freely available to the world.Your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with…I am asking because I don’t know if this agreement is assumed on your part or if he explicitly said, “Yes, you and I are exclusive…” or, better yet, “I want to be exclusive with you.” I’ll explain why I bring that up in a moment, but at any rate I agree with you that checking his dating profile seems out of step with having an exclusive relationship with you…I also wouldn’t even classify this as snooping, per se. You didn’t somehow break into and read his emails or texts.