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Friends is one of the "looking for" options the site offers.2. Men and women both select "friends" and "hang out."4.
There is a back button for getting away from such illegitimate types.5.
Plus in all likelihood you will judge me as 'bad' or 'wrong' for some of the things in my behavior limitations so I am not going to be direct with them, you have to read my mind, and know it's inherent in my definition of 'friends'.""IOW I want the power to control your behavior towards giving me what I want, but I have no desire for the responsibility and possible negative judgments. BUT, will take advantage of "dating", meaning let the guy pay the first couple of times.....
I say that because it really does seem like guys who come here for friendship only are totally delusional or shooting themselves in the foot. Guys don't go on a dating site looking for female "friends".
I have, in fact, met some really good friends off here, and clearly spell out that I'm not looking for anything more both in my profile and any conversations I have with other fishies. Looking for or offering "friends" or "lets just be friends" or "friends first" usually (and always online) = "I want to control and dictate the relationship. No matter what I maintain the self image that I am a good person, doing good altruistic things, an innocent hiding behind the shield of the word friend."If a woman is just looking for "friends", its an out.
I have an idea of how you are supposed to behave, and how I want you to behave. But it's too much work to actually communicate them so I will just use the handy word of "friend" which really has no meaning by itself, only what I define it as. If she dates you and doesnt like you she can always pull the "I have always said I wanted to be friends"...
"It is code for...............looking for a relationship.
Many of us aren't interested in relationship/s/o live ins.