Singles dating for sex
Having an honest conversation with yourself about sex is just as important as discussing it with your partner, experts say.
"Every woman and man should know their boundaries before they start dating, and most of us don't," says Cheryl Mc Clary, Ph D, JD, professor of women's health at University of North Carolina-Asheville.
"Think about your sexual boundaries before you've had that first drink," Mc Clary advises.
Once you've decided what you want out of a date, say experts, you should make it part of your regular dating rules to tell your partner.
By and large, Allen and other relationship experts endorse a cautious approach to the dating rules of sex.
She also says the conversation, like the primping, should happen at the same time -- before that big date.
"I say definitely use condoms, even if you're in a committed relationship," she adds.
Concern about STDs and unwanted pregnancies can help create sexual boundaries, believes Mc Clary.
"I spoke with a young man in his early to mid-20s who told me that if he didn't have sex on the first or second night, he'd move on to the next person," she recalls.
While you can't apply a one-size-fits-all response to sexual dating rules regardless of age or experience, professionals who have studied the topic say it is a good idea to develop a set of prudent dating rules - before the big date.