Sober dating sites
I’ve been in and out of 12-step recovery programs (like Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous) for almost 20 years.I’ve had many periods of sobriety, from a paltry four months to a lengthy seven years (and everything in between).During the past two decades, I’ve dated both men in recovery and men who weren’t alcoholics (called “normies” by us in the program).I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?One guy told Hannah point blank, “I love fucking you, but you're a transitional girl — not exactly marriage material.”There are no hard and fast rules.When two people in recovery date, they have a lot in common: the same AA meetings, the same friends, the same problems.We went to an AA meeting on our first date, went on to have a few more dates, and texted and spoke on the phone constantly. But, I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t crossed my mind that a Tinder for the sober community would be a brilliant idea—not necessarily for dating, just for the sake of meeting new people like myself.
She also finds that leaving behind your addict identity can be helpful.“The pros are that you can reinvent who you are and not just be ‘an addict,’” Sam says.
“Listen, before we do this, I need to tell you something...”I agree.
That’s one of the main upsides to dating somebody who’s also sober.
Sam continues, “Dating in the program is obviously nice, because you speak the same language and you don't have to hide your ugly past.
However, the chance of that person relapsing can also be very high.” And, she would know.